Clarifying some things about the chat and rules

oh brother i need to long in more often 😨

Mina

I didn’t see the convos but from most of the comments mentioning it, I don’t believe the people taking part in them intented to overstep the boundaries of others. If feels like they got carried away. I feel sympathy towards them because I feel like those conversations are meant to be had with friends and lovers, and the fact that they would have these conversations with strangers gives the impression that they might not have anyone to open to in a significant way. I’m glad many of them will stay and respects these rules, and wish them to find people in their lives to confide in ❤️ take care guys

Paula Rosa Marie

I find it very disheartening that this is coming from the girlies community. It should be a no-brainer to not have sexually explicit content in a comment section on Patreon! And then now all this fighting about a mod being fired. they’re not paid so they can’t be fired. They just aren’t a mod anymore. If Jessi and Lilly don’t want someone to be a mod anymore they have there reason and it doesn’t matter to us why! This is there Patreon. They can decide who they want running it .This is the type of stuff that Lily and Jessi didn’t want to happen and probably why it took them so long to make a Patreon. I’m just extremely disappointed that this behavior is coming from people in our own community.

Kellie Rose

Okay how are you crimping your hair friend???

Toni

I saw some of the convos and how anyone could argue that inappropriate conversations weren't happening is beyond me😳. Got you got it sorted before the Patreon could be affected.

Samantha Jackson

This!!! I’ve never understood the benefit of being a mod unless you’re getting paid, or have an intense parasocial relationship…. But like maybe I’m missing something?!?

Emma Thomson

TBH ya’ll some of the behaviour I’ve seen from people here is pretty wild and concerning - first red flag was people calling around to PF changs like a bunch of stalkers… 🚩 can we all just chill?

Emma Thomson

Thank you Jessi, it's silly it has to be said but at least we can look forward to discussions in the chat we can all feel comfortable about now.

Mizcuit

It’s wild how fast people reacted in the chat yesterday before more information became available.

Andrew Giglio

Yeah, I noticed that a few times. I'd jump at random times to explicit conversations about roleplay or intimacy with people's partners. Or suggestive stuff about kinks. It was a bit weird

Tteaal

Curious are the mods paid? Just keep seeing that one of the mods was “fired” which made me curious.

Sara

💯🎯

Meagan

Pretty clear 👍🏻

Daniel Bryce

I think you did a great job being clear on this, watching you guys from the beginning I knew this would always be the way you'd handle this. I hope everyone can respect that and you guys get the interaction with the platform you wanted

PJ Evans

How does this need further explanation....no sexting in the chat girlies come on...

Irene Hessner

There were no dicks. There was no nudity. There was an issue with one situation that involved women hyping other women being conflated with the issue of another poster making multiple members uncomfortable. And then the rules got posted and it spiraled into further misunderstanding.

Drivebythinker

Thank you! Surprise dicks are absolutely horrifying!

Jessica Sarah

PEOPLE ARE STRUGGLING WITH THIS RULE?? 😭😭

Sarah🩷🤍🧡

Im scared for the fact that theres people paying to be in here and not understanding the concept of NSFW

Layne

nope

Kait • 🍉

Great words to live by!

Kristy Russell

I'm surprised you had to address this.

Kristy Russell

Jessi will you please post pics of your nails when you get them done?? They are always so pretty and I want to see the design!!

Mary

THERE WAS NOTHING EXPLICIT. END OF STORY.

Cali

I really hope it isn’t. I know a lot of the girlies are feeling upset about how things happened and no one had ill intentions ever. None one purposely made others feel any type of way. And it seems things got blown out of per portion. We all came here because we enjoy the girlies. And I can say with confidence no one wanted to bring any type of stress to them. So I hope it’s not brought up and can remain here only.

Adrianna

Weren't what? I definitely saw at least one person confused on the original rules post lmao

Sommer

Have people really been sexting ? 🤣

Jacqueline Garcia

This is it right here. You need rules and regulations to tell you NOT to do this stuff in a public forum like this? Get real guys.

Meagan

Can you provide a little more information on why the moderator that was harassed and shamed in the chat was removed? I completely agree that chats should be a safe space, I just don’t see how excluding victims of harassment and bullying aligns with that message. The rule itself is great.

Emma

This was happening?🤯

Paty

Why can't people be normal lol

Carolyn 🌱

Me when i cant post tina belcher style friend fiction to the gc: 😟

Devin 💖

It wasn't explicit! And the rules weren't a thing.

Sara Sabotage

I’m so confused if no one was sexting what was happening?? May fall under the category of non of my business which is ok but I’m curious lol

MDP

It was literally her engagement photo with her husband. That was the one picture she sent.

Cali

In other words if it something Colleen would do…Don’t do it! Sounds good 👍🏽

Lizzie

Can’t two things be true at once, that men shouldn’t make inappropriate comments but a mod shouldn’t post suggestive stuff even though the rules didn’t explicitly say at the time

Em 🪷

Those kind of conversation makes me uncomfortable so thank you !

Sab Blah

not this being the next DWKT topic

Helen Lawlor

but like, they werent lol

Kait • 🍉

This isn’t about the rule. We completely understand no NSFW comment in the chat. The issue is a mod has now been let go because “raunchy” pictures were shared a) prior to that rule and b) even though they were not that inappropriate.

Cali

People aren't mad or confused by the rule change. We are frustrated that when a man was making people uncomfortable and it was brought up to other mods, the othe mods (one specific) chose to shame the women for something that wasn't in the rules yet. Then fired one mod with a bs reason over the chat when multiple mods were there. You dropped the ball, or the mod team did.

Sara Sabotage

noooooone was

Kait • 🍉

I can't believe this was confusing for people 😂 just don't be gross or weird

Sommer

First of all, you look 10/10 & second of all … I love the safety and comfortability being prioritized!

Alexis Levasseur

Omg I can’t believe people were trying to sext in the girlies chats 😭😭😭😭

Mak

noooooooone

Kait • 🍉

If you’d see it on OF, don’t put it here

Allison Schleicher

Off topic but I can literally never get over how gorgeous Jessi and Lily are

Lauren

Jasmoonz

It's also triggering to us girlies with sexual trauma to see such things without prior warning, so thank you for clarifying

Mariska

Were people *trying* to? 😬

Kamalei Sterling

“Cunt” lololol

Embher Chaffin

I fear it’s common sense to not post NSFW in a massive group chat💀 yall stay safe tho

Tiffany

Aye aye Jessica Urban 🫡

Rebecca

Right??? I am flabbergasted here lmfao

shhhh

There goes my entire plan 🫠

Chels

I know what it means, but surprised people don’t know it’s code for sexually explicit content

Diana

The hair! Slaaaaaay! But thanks for the clarification ☺️

Maddie🌼

I mean this in the kindest way but I feel like this was all very VERY basic common sense.

shhhh

Love you girlies💜

Emmy Glo

I appreciate you making this a safe space for everyone. 💕

Jess

Not safe for work

Elle Gerber

❤️

Linsey

If you would see it on onlyfans it probably doesn’t belong here. -basically

thevoidbender

Okay who tf was *exting

Christina M

No nudes in the chat 🫡

Jett Kennedy

we need them on a times square billboard again so don’t sext

Helen Lawlor

The NAILS

Vitobug

Totally makes sense! Also, love your nails

Blueberry Unicorn (Lesley)

💯

Emily

Just don't be weird, ok?

Coral M

Or the here for the clout Patreon iykyk

Elisabeth W.

lol this just isn’t a place to see each others titties. That’s for the OF girlies

Elisabeth W.

Am i so old that nsfw is an outdated term??

Diana

The HAIR

Katie